Patience is a virtue. Understanding the concept of karma means that you understand concepts of physics – “For every action there is an equal an opposite reaction.” – but you also understand a bit of quantum theory – that time is an artificial construct – so that you realize that you may not experience the effect of an action right away, or even at all – but you have the confidence to know that you can count on it.
I used to waste a lot of energy on expecting people to “pay back” kindnesses. And then I realized that a kindness that is created in one space and time that I can see may be paid back in a space and time that I cannot.
Why do we give? Does kindness require true selflessness? If I do something for someone expecting something back, it’s not a kindness, it’s a transaction that creates a debt. And in all literature and even cartoons, creditors are seen as greedy and even evil. I do not want to be Scrooge (or even Scrooge McDuck…).
These underlying expectations merely cause stress, as all unfulfilled desires do. And that stress causes anger that you feel is justified – but IT IS NOT JUSTIFIED! When that anger bleeds out, it makes for being a less attractive person. And when one is avoided, one becomes lonely and more angry and then depressed. Is it worth it?
Do you keep an internal score card? “Well, I helped them when they needed it, so they should know when I need help and be there for me..” I hate to say it, but every mark in the “OWED TO ME” column takes a bit of your soul and puts a wedge in your relationships.
Here’s a thing – I’ve learned that even if you do receive a payback for a kindness, it’s going to bless you at the perfect time. Not when you want it, not when you think you need it, but at a time and with a timing that will seem miraculous. So if you have the patience and the true selflessness to erase the checkmarks in that column of your internal score card, your life or the life of someone you care about may be saved, one way or another.